The Art of Touch

Consulting, Coaching, Training, Public Speaking

Massage

Image Credit: Alovingtouchmassage.com

When was the last time you received a massage? Has it been so long that you do not even remember? Do you go so often that you have a regular massage therapist that you see and know there first and last name, what their last vacation was, and how many kids they have? How about in-between, the one’s that go to whoever they can when they can, which leaves you satisfied at some moments and dissatisfied at others. Should we go when we want to, when we can afford it, or when we have time? Or should we make time, put it in our budget, and schedule it?

All of our lives are different along with the various income levels, which is why there are so many price levels of massage therapists out there. You can get a membership discount at a chain massage place, like Massage Envy…

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My visit to South Africa

It was my first time. I felt so proud to say… I am not a virgin anymore. I finally made it the motherland. The place where I originated from. Where we all originated from. I believe somewhere on the west side of Africa however for me, and not South Africa, but I was excited to be in the home of Nelson Mandela! My mother talked about Africa all the time so I took her spirit with me since her physical form was taken from me due to breast cancer.

I was able to even visit and talk with many of the locals where some thought breast cancer was a white woman’s disease. Others had several family members who either passed away from the disease or currently battling it. One woman, belonging to the Xhosa tribe, has three family members with breast cancer. Please keep them all in your prayers. Another young man, from Lesotho, a small country in South Africa, said he was unsure of how his mother died. They did not do an autopsy.

I learned so much and realized once again, the importance of education. The more we know, the more we do not know. Being a leader does not mean knowing it all. Always continue to learn more and travel more. And do not forget to share the knowledge with someone else. Check out some of my favorite quotes on education below.

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Here are some photos from my trip:

Yours in service,

AP

Your Life Coach, AP, talks with Health Professional Radio

I like to have hot topic discussions to bring not only awareness of certain topics to people who may not get a chance to have the opportunity, to have that discussion, but to also increase my knowledge. I do not know everything. I learn from some of the youngest children I come in counter with when mentoring and I am honored.

What I really have a problem with is when people share misguided information or when they knowingly share misleading information. These people lose credibility fast for me, but for others, others that refuse to do their own research, tend to stay in the misguided path. A cloudy path or a path that never seems to be lighted with truth nor enlightened with logic.

Let us always seek knowledge. Let us always share knowledge and let us never forget, with knowledge comes power. Let us be reminded from the footsteps of great leaders and inspirational leaders around the world. Let us grow to continue to be coaches, mentors, leaders, inspirational people and more. Who is with me? This is a call to action. A call for change. A pledge to do better. To be better. Everyday. I am counting on you. Please count on me to do the same.

In Service,

AP

Serve as a Fellow with I Will Survive, Inc.

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Through the Mission Continues’ Fellowship Program, selected veterans volunteer part-time for six months with I Will Survive, Inc. In return, Fellows receive a living stipend, complete a leadership development curriculum and develop new skills and networks. The Fellowship Program is ideal for veterans looking to start a new career, gain practical work experience while attending school or for a new way to serve at home. Find out more at www.MissionContinues.org (open to post-9/11 veterans)

Need: Honorable Discharge, DD214, Clean Criminal Record, and signed Memorandum of Understanding.

  • Attend a three-day fellowship orientation (coming up in Atlanta).
  • Gain additional leadership skills as a civilian.
  • Transfer military skills to the civilian workforce.
  • Gain public speaking skills.
  • Obtain networks for future careers after the fellowship.
  • Become active citizens in the community.
  • Gain mentorship and coaching from a Certified Professional Life Coach free of charge.
  • Work directly with the Executive Director of I Will Survive, Inc., who is also a veteran who served two tours in Iraq, obtained a Bachelor of Arts in Speech Communications and will obtain a Masters in Public Administration.

Please visit the host organization at www.IWillSurviveInc.org to gain more information. Email contact@iwillsurviveinc.org if you are interested to serve again!

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” – Mahatma Gandhi

I Will Survive, Inc. 5879 New Peachtree Rd., Suite D., Atlanta, GA 30340

Phone 404.483.8503 Fax 800.880.1586

Are you a well-rounded community leader?

What makes a person well-rounded? How about a well-rounded community leader? Perhaps the careers they have held in their life, the various business and personal relationships that were successful and not so successful, the emotional roller-coasters of dealing with financial loss and gain in addition to dealing with physical loss of human beings, all make up some of the ingredients in a well-rounded community leader.

All of the aforementioned examples can be summed up into stress. A hypothesis of a well-rounded community leader could be someone that can handle stress and still lead from the front. Serving on a non-profit board can be stressful. You have to deal with making the time (not finding the time) to give, figuring out your best traits or talents to give, and opening your wallet to give your treasure to a cause you believe in and/or raising the funds to keep those programs running. These three most critical areas of what makes a good board member are summed up in time, talent, and treasure.

What if you are not able to make a whole lot of time because of your new twins with your spouse? What if your home is going through foreclosure and feel you do not have the extra funds to donate to that cause you care about? What if you are getting complacent and rusty on your talent because you really feel stuck in a career you no longer enjoy? This type of stress is caused by worry. What if… what if… what if! You could go on all day with what ifs, so why do we do it to ourselves?

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer defines worry as “the act of becoming immobilized in the present moment as a result of things that are going, or are not going, to happen in the future.” You can be a well-rounded community leader. Most well-rounded community leaders have sat on non-profit boards and some have sat on many more than one non-profit organization over a course of five years. Consider sitting on a nonprofit board. Erase the stress of worry out of your mind. Get mobilized in this present moment and start now.

In Service,

AP

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Eliminate-Worry-From-Your-Life-Wayne-Dyer#ixzz3hUEpGaSF

10 Simple Ways to Live a Less Stressful Life

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Originally Posted: SUNDAY, OCTOBER 5, 2008

“If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn’t ask me, I’d still have to say it.” – George F. Burns

Post written by Leo Babauta. Follow me on Twitter.

Stress is a major problem for many people — a hectic, stressful job, a chaotic home life, bills to worry about, and bad habits such as unhealthy eating, drinking and smoking can lead to a mountain of stress.

If your life is full of stress, like mine once was, there are some simple things you can do to get your life to a more manageable level.

Now, your life will probably never be stress-free — I don’t think that’s even desirable, even if it is possible, because stress is something that challenges us and helps us grow. At a reasonable level. But when stress gets too high, it causes us to be unhappy and unhealthy.

It wasn’t that long ago when I was working long hours in a very stressful job, with little time for my family, smoking and eating fatty foods and not exercising. I had a lot of debt and too many bills. I was unhappy and stressed out all the time. I was losing hair … OK, actually that was because of genetics, but still. I was pretty stressed.

So I made some drastic changes. I quit my job. I simplified my life. I quit smoking and started exercising and eating healthier. I began to eliminate my debt. And I learned some habits that, when applied on a daily basis, can really transform the way you live, in a positive way.

How did I do all of this? One thing at a time. I didn’t do a major rehab of my life. I changed one habit a month, and gradually over the course of a year or two changed a lot of things in my life.

I won’t guarantee that all of these will work for you. They worked for me, but each person is different. Pick and choose the ones that will work best for you, and give them a try. One at a time.

1. One thing at a time. This is the simplest and best way to start reducing your stress, and you can start today. Right now. Focus as much as possible on doing one thing at a time. Clear your desk of distractions. Pick something to work on. Need to write a report? Do only that. Remove distractions such as phones and email notifications while you’re working on that report. If you’re going to do email, do only that. This takes practice, and you’ll get urges to do other things. Just keep practicing and you’ll get better at it.

2. Simplify your schedule. A hectic schedule is a major cause of high stress. Simplify by reducing the number of commitments in your life to just the essential ones. Learn to say no to the rest — and slowly get out of commitments that aren’t beneficial to you. Schedule only a few important things each day, and put space between them. Get out of meetings when they aren’t absolutely essential. Leave room for down time and fun.

3. Get moving. Do something each day to be active — walk, hike, play a sport, go for a run, do yoga. It doesn’t have to be grueling to reduce stress. Just move. Have fun doing it.

4. Develop one healthy habit this month. Other than getting active, improving your health overall will help with the stress. But do it one habit at a time. Eat fruits and veggies for snacks. Floss every day. Quit smoking. Cook something healthy for dinner. Drink water instead of soda. One habit at a time.

5. Do something calming. What do you enjoy that calms you down? For many people, it can be the “get moving” activity discussed above. But it could also be taking a nap, or a bath, or reading, or having sex (which can also be considered a “get moving” activity if you do it for longer than 5 minutes). Other people are calmed by housework or yardwork. Some people like to meditate, or take a nature walk. Find your calming activity and try to do it each day.

6. Simplify your finances. Finances can be a drain on your energy and a major stressor. If that’s true with you, figure out ways to simplify things. Automate savings and bill payments and debt payments. Spend less by going shopping (at malls or online) much less. Find ways to have fun that don’t involve spending money.

7. Have a blast! Have fun each day, even if it’s just for a few minutes. I like to play with my kids — they take my mind off everything and are really hilarious. I also like to play sports (again, often with my kids). Board games are fun. Sex, again, can be a fun activity. Whatever you choose, be sure to laugh.

8. Get creative. Throwing yourself into a creative activity is another great way to de-stress and to prevent stress. I like writing, but others like to paint or play music or sketch or make pottery or do interior design or build things.

9. Declutter. This is a favorite of mine. I like to take 20-30 minutes and just go through a room, getting rid of stuff we don’t use or need anymore. I look around at anything that’s cluttering up a room, and get rid of it or find a better place for it. When I’m done, I have a nice, peaceful environment for work, play, and living. Do this a little at a time — it can be one of your “fun activities”.

10. Be early. I will admit that it’s hard to be early when you have to get 6 kids ready (seriously — try it!). But being late can be very stressful. Try to leave earlier by getting ready earlier, or by scheduling more space between events. Things always take longer than normal, so schedule some buffer time: extra time to get ready, to commute, to do errands before you need to be somewhere, to attend a meeting before another scheduled appointment. If you get somewhere early, it’s good to have some reading material.

How do you keep the stress in your life to a manageable level? Share in the comments.

“Loafing needs no explanation and is its own excuse.” – Christopher Morley

http://www.zenhabits.net

The Art of Touch

Massage

Image Credit: Alovingtouchmassage.com

When was the last time you received a massage? Has it been so long that you do not even remember? Do you go so often that you have a regular massage therapist that you see and know there first and last name, what their last vacation was, and how many kids they have? How about in-between, the one’s that go to whoever they can when they can, which leaves you satisfied at some moments and dissatisfied at others. Should we go when we want to, when we can afford it, or when we have time? Or should we make time, put it in our budget, and schedule it?

All of our lives are different along with the various income levels, which is why there are so many price levels of massage therapists out there. You can get a membership discount at a chain massage place, like Massage Envy, or you can look out for the discounts on resources like Groupon or Living Social.

The important factor is to allow the art of touch to relieve your stress, so you can continue to live your life on purpose. Not all stress is bad stress. Some stress is needed to keep balance and know how to handle stressful situations when they arise, yet, stress should not be on overload to where it will not allow us to function properly or compete our daily tasks effectively.

Schedule that massage. Make a budget for it. Do whatever it is you need to do to make it happen. Even if you are the one who believes you only have time for a chair massage, before exiting Whole Foods on grocery day.

When you go on a regular, you will begin to see whose style of massage you like over the other. Do you know a friend who is a massage therapist or someone who is training to be one? Have them practice on you and give them a tip for their services even though the massage is free. They will share all the intimate details with you from the type of clients they have massaged, like which male gets visibly turned on by the art of touch or which female smiles the widest or even when that time someone “let it rip” in the middle of the massage. As long as no one is attacking or stalking anyone, I think the stories are quite amusing.

In the end of the day, laughter heals the soul, but the art of touch heals the body. The touch is so deep that it has the potential to carry out the toxins in your body, so be sure to cleanse with lots of water after a massage and make sure you schedule it. I believe happy people live the longest. Higher stress levels takes away from the happiness.

-Your Life Coach, AP